The act of networking proves to be an uncomfortable experience for many people because they find small talk challenging. Entering a room where everyone is unfamiliar produces exhaustion from being forced to speak about uninteresting topics such as the daily weather or news highlights. Making deep connections between people does not require the use of bland conversational topics.

Networking is all about creating genuine relationships, and it can be done in a way that feels natural and, dare I say, enjoyable.

If you’ve been avoiding networking events because of the awkwardness, these hacks will help you turn that discomfort into confidence and maybe even make the whole process a little fun.

1. Lead With Open-Ended, Thoughtful Questions

Instead of asking, “What do you do?” (which is overused and usually leads to one-word answers), try something that invites a real conversation. For example, ask: 

• What got you into your field?
• What’s been the most rewarding part of your career so far?

These types of questions do two things: they show you’re genuinely interested, and they make the other person feel valued. People love to share their experiences, and when you give them the opportunity, it creates a more meaningful dialogue right from the start.

2. Build Connections, Not Contact Lists

Here’s the truth: Networking isn’t about how many business cards you collect or how many LinkedIn connections you make. What matters is the quality of the relationships you form. Focus on having a few deeper conversations rather than trying to talk to everyone in the room. Trust me, the best connections happen when you’re present and engaged, not when you’re trying to impress everyone.

3. Do Your Homework Before the Event

Walking into a networking event without a game plan can be overwhelming. Before you go, spend a few minutes researching the event, the attendees, or even the speakers. It gives you an edge because you can come prepared with specific questions or comments, like: 

• I saw you were part of a recent panel discussion on [topic]. What was that experience like?
• Your company just announced a new initiative congratulations! How has that been going? 

Showing you’ve done your research not only boosts your confidence but also makes you stand out in the best way possible.

4. One-on-One Chats Are Your Secret Weapon

If big group conversations make you want to hide in the bathroom, don’t force yourself into them. Look for someone who’s standing alone or stepping into smaller groups. Introduce yourself with a smile and a simple, “Hi, I’m [your name]. Mind if I join you?” Most people appreciate the effort because they’re probably just as nervous about networking as you are.

5. Use LinkedIn to Break the Ice

If in-person events feel like too much, remember that networking doesn’t always have to happen face-to-face. LinkedIn is a great place to start. Send a personalized connection request to someone you admire, comment thoughtfully on their posts, or share articles relevant to your industry. Then, if you do meet in person, you’ve already laid the foundation for a conversation.

6. Have a Clear Goal for Each Event

Before you walk into a networking event, ask yourself: 

• What do I want to achieve today?
• Who do I want to connect with?

Having a specific goal whether it’s meeting three new people or learning about a particular industry trend makes the experience less daunting. Plus, it keeps you focused, so you don’t feel like you’re just aimlessly wandering around.

7. Be an Active Listener

You don’t have to be the one doing all the talking to leave a great impression. In fact, listening is one of the most underrated networking skills. Pay attention to what people are saying, nod occasionally, and ask follow-up questions. Something as simple as, “Wow, that sounds fascinating how did you get involved in that?” can go a long way in showing you’re genuinely interested.

8. Seek Out Non-Traditional Networking Opportunities

If traditional networking events feel like torture, think outside the box. Join workshops, volunteer for community projects, or attend smaller industry meetups. These types of events often have a more relaxed vibe, making it easier to connect with people without the pressure of formal introductions.

9. Know When (and How) to Exit a Conversation

Let’s face it sometimes you’ll find yourself stuck in a conversation that’s just not clicking. That’s okay! The key is to exit gracefully. You could say something like: 

• It was so nice chatting with you. I’m going to grab a coffee, but I’d love to connect on LinkedIn.
• This has been such an insightful conversation. I’m going to mingle a bit more, but let’s stay in touch!

This gives you a polite way out without burning any bridges.

10. Follow Up and Keep the Connection Alive

Networking doesn’t end when the event is over. Take the time to send a quick follow-up email or LinkedIn message. Mention something specific from your conversation, like, “I really enjoyed learning about your work in [topic]. Let’s stay in touch!” Consistent follow-ups are where real relationships are built.

Final Thoughts

Networking doesn’t have to mean shallow conversations or forced smiles. When you approach it with authenticity and a little preparation, it can be an enjoyable way to connect with people who inspire you. Remember, you don’t need to be the loudest person in the room to leave a lasting impression. Focus on what feels natural to you, and don’t be afraid to let your personality shine. 

With these strategies, you’ll not only survive networking events—you’ll thrive at them.